Some gay activists claim that as Christians, they follow Christ, rather than Paul and the Old Testament. And they claim that Christ was silent on the question of gay relationships.
We need to keep in mind here, that we do not know everything that Jesus ever said (John 21:25). But what about what he did say? Was he silent on the topic of gay relationships? I dont think it’s completely true to say that he was. Because he talked about marriage, and about the components of Christian marriage. Consider Matthew 19 (NIV) –
1 When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2 Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.
3 Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”
4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[a] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[b]? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
7 “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”
8 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”
10 The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”
11 Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”
For people who are new to this, one of the first questions that come up, is “what is a eunuch?” And attempts to simply answer that question alone, can open a whole new realm of debate, in terms of how broad the definition of ‘eunuch’ should be. There is basically universal agreement that the core definition of ‘eunuch’ is a man who has been castrated. In millennia of the past, eunuchs were put in charge of female royals and rulers, because they were regarded as not being a sexual threat. But we see here that Jesus says that people can be born as eunuchs as well, so the definition is broader than simply those who have been castrated. Some have even suggested that the term might include anyone who is not destined to naturally reproduce, including homosexuals. What Jesus meant by choosing to live like a eunuch, is to some degree a matter of opinion, but it would seem to me that central to that meaning is to not to reproduce. Many would say it would mean to remain single.
Many gay activists respond to the above passage, by claiming that it’s simply about divorce. But those who are not closed-minded, can see that the passage begins with a question about divorce, and that Jesus expands the topic by talking about the meaning of Christian marriage and its components, describing the Christian marriage model as being inherently heterosexual. Jesus seems to say that those who cant handle a life-long heterosexual marriage, should consider living the life of a eunuch, and that in fact it’s the better option.